BY LYDIA EDIBE RELATIONSHIP COUNSELOR
As I grew up as a child, one of the tools my parents used to make us happy was showering us with a lot of praises and gratitude to our little efforts to keep the environment clean.
These words made us feel important and boosted our self-esteem, consequently we always looked forward to serve and serve so well. Everytime in your relationship you sincerely appreciate the efforts of your spouse, you will realise there will be this increase desire to do more, and this will eventually lead your family to a place of peace, love and excitement because both parties are putting all through sacrifice to make each other happy.
We, are leaving in a time where entitlement mentality is rampant, consequently most people find it hard to applaud the efforts of their spouse, in making their relationships worthwhile. You hear things like "no bi yi work? why the get for thank yi again.....mesef I don do my own"
These attitude makes marriage a den of responsibilities,and more weigh on the man,and over time he gets tired, and become less performant. Everyone needs a pad on the back, when they accomplish a task no matter how little. In the operate world, there are appresal schemes, where hard work is being appreciated and bonuses given.
No matter how small, after all there will be number no two without number one, every effort, should be appreciated, it is the only platform for increase. Now listen, If you ever want to enjoy marital bliss, try this principle, I have engaged for the past 13 years of my life. It works more than any "Kayamata" ever produced. It is a charm that works even on the almighty God.....it is called "Gratitude".
It is simply an act of kindness, recognising and appreciating the efforts of your spouse, no matter how little. People make rules and people can still cancel them, as far as life is concerned nobody owes you anything. Acts of service from your spouse entails a lot of sacrifice, and each time they go on a journey to put a smile on your face,don't think it's a do or die affair, they merely care about you, which you must not take for granted.
Note: Anything you take for granted will certainly not be granted unto you. The value of a thing is realised in it absence.
Ingratitude is a sign of pride, and pride comes before a fall. Gratitude is humility, God resist the proud and gives grace to humble. When you are thankful, your tank will be full.
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